The 5 Stages of Break Up - You Should Be Aware Of
There are frequently 5 stages of a break up. The stages are fundamental to the healing process. Being aware that there is a specific set of stages that we follow will help make it easier for you to cope with the break up. More notably this will help with healing course. It can take a few years for you to completely get over the terrible pain, but by breaking the break up process into five stages, you can learn how to cope with the loss a little more easily.
First stage- Acceptance
In this stage, all that you can really do is to accept that the break up is real. Don’t try to wrap your head around what is happening. Your feelings will be all over the place. The breakup may consume every aspect of your life. You probably will feel completely powerless and beaten down
It is important when you are in this phase, that you work through your pain, by focusing on positive things, like journaling, playing sports, creating art, exercising, doing crafts or spending time with people you feel close to.
Second stage - Let It Out
It is not healthy keeping your feelings bottled up. In this stage you should try to free yourself from your pain by opening yourself up. Now is the time to let things out rather than just pretending to cope. You do not have to feel like you are losing control just because you are letting your feelings out. Shedding a few tears and pouring your disappointment out into artistic activities like writing and painting can be really good for you. It is very healthy to express yourself in a safe and comfortable place during this stage.
Third stage - Nurturing
This is the stage where you allow other people to help you heal. Take the time to spend time with close friends and family. Allow them to offer their view point, and give them a chance to take care of you. However, a word of warning should be noted at this point.
Many times your loved ones, not on purpose, can hinder your recovery. They may vent anger at your ex lover and encourage you to seek revenge. This is not a good way to go about healing: it will only extend the agony. Back away from negativity and negative people.
Fourth stage - Reward
You have been in agony long enough. It is time to treat your self with something nice like a makeover or a trip abroad. The Reward stage is about rewarding yourself in positive and healthful ways. Let this break up be the beginning of a new and improved you. Rather than dwelling on the failure of the relationship, focus on self development,
Fifth stage - Moving on
Finally you can start to look at the big picture. You have acknowledged the situation for what it is and can now think about moving on. This is the point where you can see why the break up occurred, and realize that maybe it was a good thing.
By stage 5 of the 5 stages of a breakup, you are no longer worried about what the other person is doing or thinking. You look at the entire period as something that happened in the past and can finally move beyond it.